Why Men Are Intimidated by Strong Women?

Why Men Are Intimidated by Strong Women?

It’s an age old question: why are men intimidated by strong women? There are probably plenty of guys out there who would adamantly claim they are not intimidated by any woman, but when push comes to shove, truth tends to shine bright.

First, it’s a good idea to define what a strong woman is. That would be a woman who is not only independent (can take care of herself) but is also driven to accomplish her goals and achieve her dreams in life. That might not seem to be a major concern for some, but it can be a bit intimidating for some men because they’ve long been taught about their strength, they’ve been surrounded by men in positions of authority, such as politics and business, and there’s a comfort in those expectations.

When a guy begins dating a woman who is strong and independent, it can be unsettling, to say the least. Try holding open the door for a strong, fiercely independent woman and you might just feel the cold end of her wrath.

A bit melodramatic, of course, but the point is this: those men who are intimidate by strong women will generally view them in dating circles as conquests and nothing more. They certainly don’t see themselves as dating them into the future, getting married, or raising children with them. After all, a guy who takes charge and is comfortable with traditional roles in a relationship isn’t going to fare too well with a woman telling him what to do (or what not to do).


The ‘King’ Syndrome


When a boy grows up, he’s taught to be strong, to not show fear or doubt and to avoid crying. These aren’t helpful, but they’re traditional. It’s been that way for millennia. So when they graduate high school, head out to college or move out of their parents’ home, they are on their own and they may have certain expectations about themselves, their career, friends, and ultimately family life in the future.

If the young man grew up in a household that was dominated by the father (male figure), he’s more likely to be comfortable in that type of environment for himself. Society is rife with examples of men as the breadwinner, the dominant person, the strong one.

Women have long been portrayed as physically weaker, homemakers, moms. We’re not talking about the reality of the situation here, folks, so please don’t misunderstand that.

When men are faced with the prospect of a strong woman, it upends just about everything they had been taught throughout their life. They don’t know what to do. Suddenly they’ll find themselves fawning all over this woman trying to do whatever he can to please her.

That leads to quite the pathetic sight. Women don’t want groveling, weak men; they, too want strong partners in their relationships. So the man may have to work twice as hard, be twice as motivated, and step up far more than he’s done at any other time in his life to make this relationship work.

And that sounds like work, doesn’t it? Of course it does, and there is the problem with this situation: men don’t want to work in relationships.


Written by G. T. Hedlund

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