How To Get Over An Ex
Breaking up is hard to do, or so the line goes.
It’s true and anyone who has been in a relationship for more than a few months can testify to that. If you’re on the wrong end of the breakup, meaning your ex is the one who ended it, then it can be even more challenging to overcome.
There are some things you can do that can help get over an ex, but you need to be an active participant in the process. If you tend to wallow in your misery, then you run the risk of having a much more difficult time with this.
The best way to get over an ex is to follow some of the advice listed here. I may not be the greatest expert in the world on these matters, but I do know a thing or two about all of this.
It’s okay to cry. In fact, it’s a great thing. Crying helps you cleanse yourself of the pain and allows you to get past it one little tear at a time. Pain is real, even if you keep denying it, but denial is only going to cause you major problems in the future.
Stop all contact with the ex.
It’s easy to ‘leave the lines of communication open’ with your ex. After all, when she said you two could still be friends, you thought that was a great idea. What better way to keep the possibility of you two getting back together than staying in contact every once in a while.
Bad idea. There’s no way for you to truly move on and you become nothing more than the ‘option’ for your ex if she gets lonely.
I don’t mean you should go out and start dating again. No, no, no. I mean you should go out with your friends. You know, the ones who have supported you most of your life (or as long as you’ve known them).
Getting out and laughing with them is a great way to show yourself you don’t need this ex like you thought you did in order to have a good time.
Start a journal.
You might assume in a month or two that things are still as bad as they were when the relationship first ended, but you’d likely be surprised when you read about it in a journal. Keep a daily diary of sorts about your feelings, the anger, hurt, sorry, and even joys you find in the days and weeks after the breakup.
It acts as a good reality check when you’re getting ready to call him back up ‘just to say hi.’
Stay away from the ‘what ifs.’
There are plenty of things you could have done differently (and that your ex could have, too), but that wasn’t going to change the outcome of this relationship. Stop fooling yourself into thinking that.
Instead, focus on what you learned from this and carry that into the next relationship you get into. You’ll know better what you don’t want and what’s most important to you. That will lay the foundation for a much healthier and stronger relationship into the future.
Written by G. T. Hedlund