10 Signs You’re Headed For A Break Up
Nobody, and I mean nobody enters into a relationship expecting things to fall apart. You get involved with the other person because you assume that things are going to last a long, long time. When most people tend to look back on their past failed relationships, they can usually learn a lot about and from them.
One thing that can still be a bit foggy on, though, especially when you’re in the midst of a relationship (even though things have changed lately and you’re wondering whether it’s falling apart) is if some of the things that are happening could be indicating the coming end of your relationship.
Check out these 10 signs that may just tell you clear enough that you very well could be headed for a breakup.
You’re feeling lonely.
Even though you’re in a committed relationship, you still feel lonely. That’s not that unusual when the wheels start falling off the entire thing. If you’re feeling lonely, you’re not being fulfilled and if you’re not being fulfilled, your partner probably isn’t, either.
Simple conversations turn into fights.
You can’t seem to have a simple talk anymore without it turning into some form of hostility. Yeah, that’s never a good sign that you’re in a health relationship anymore. Eventually one or both of you is just going to get tired of the negativity and call it quits.
There’s no physical contact anymore.
I’m not talking about sex (though that generally tends to fall away toward the end of a relationship as well). I’m talking about holding hands, placing a loving hand on your partner’s leg when watching TV, and all those other little PDAs (Public Displays of Affection) that were common some time ago.
You do your own thing at home. If you find that you’re ignoring your partner or they tend to ignore you, that’s a clear sign something is wrong. Maybe you can talk about it, but unless you do things are only going to get worse.
Laughter between you two is a thing of the past.
When you were first getting together, you were learning about one another … and laughing. Now, though, you can’t remember the last time the two of you laughed.
You’re sleeping in separate beds.
Couples who begin sleeping separately are usually well on their way to the end. They may be reluctant to pack it all in just yet, or they may be waiting for their partner to take that responsibility.
You spend so little time together now.
Date nights and other ‘alone time’ has long been a thing of the past. When you begin letting these things go, then you’re already on the road to splitsville … you just might not have realized it at the time.
A lack of trust.
If you have to resort to spying on your partner’s phone, email, or other forms of communication, then there’s a major breach going on here. A loss of trust is a killer for most relationships.
You fail to talk about the bad times.
Whether you feel anger or resentment or other negative emotions, but don’t talk about them, then where’s that going to lead? Nowhere good.
You two tend to keep score.
Not on the Monday Night Football game, but on who did what, who said what when, and so on. When you begin keeping score like this, it spells big trouble in little China.
Written by G. T. Hedlund