Relationships are hard work. Anyone who thinks it’s easy to be in one either hasn’t put much effort into it (which places all the pressure on their partner who will one day resent it) or is heading for a breakup. If you’re not willing to focus on making the effort to ensure this one works out, don’t go looking outside of yourself for the answers about why it didn’t.
It’s the teenage fantasy: hooking up with the teacher, the friend’s mother, or that single older woman down the street. That doesn’t seem to change all that much when guys get older, become ‘adults,’ and even well into their 30s and 40s.
Whoever said that a man does not cry is reading the wrong book of rules. Men cry, maybe not as often as we do but they have tears to shed too. Just because they have a different set of hormones it’s stupid to expect them to be macho all the time. Tears are a form of releasing extreme stress and if its works for you, it will work for them too. So here are a few things you absolutely must not do if you find your man crying, nor any man for that matter.
You’re alone. Single. Still. It’s not like this is something you really want, but no matter what you do you can’t seem to find someone with whom to settle down for any length of time. Your relationships probably last all of about a month or two, if that, then you’re back to single life once again.
When you first start dating a new man, it can be an exciting time. You’re both learning about the other and there’s an electricity you can’t find anywhere else in life. Those first weeks and months are some of the best and while you’re trying to dig into his psyche and get to the bottom of what makes him tick, even when you think you’ve got everything out of him, there are some things he probably hasn’t shared with you.
Wonder why there are so many therapy sessions dedicated to just mending relationships? – Because they are hard. It is human nature to be love and be in a relationship though the meaning and definitions have changed over the years. They also differ in concept from one person to the other, but the bottom line has remained the same, partnering is in our DNA. Maybe that’s why the Amazonians didn’t last nor do the loners make the majority of our population. So why do we face so many problems when we are in a relationship?
There are so many things that men and women find attractive about the opposite sex, and there’s rarely an issue talking about these things, but would you have even thought that there could be some things women find unattractive about men, but don’t go out telling them about it?
When you first started dating, things were awesome. You two clicked right away, had a lot in common, laughed all the time, and were energetic. He didn’t complain about any of your physical issues (you know, the ones you’re constantly focusing too much attention on in private, even though you look amazing), but as the months march on, you might be picking up on some hints that maybe he wants you to lose a few pounds.
If romance wasn’t such a big deal none of us would be so preoccupied with it. It has always been, since our cave days and even though we sometimes forget how important it is for a relationship. Especially at present times when we are more concerned about career than commitment, we tend to ignore the little yearnings. But even the hardcore CEO can be a little romantic at heart and every woman cherishes those little gestures that make them feel special. But they might run into a roadblock when it comes to receiving these gestures from the significant other. Men can be clueless at times even though they are completely dedicated and love you to bits.
Did you ever actually think about the foods you order when you go out? What about on a date? If not, it’s time that you did. After all, your date is thinking about it.
If you don’t you are not alone. In-laws have been a dreaded term for centuries. Though we have no chronicles of it, am sure even the cavemen had major kitchen politics going on, albeit over the fire instead of the dinner table! So don’t worry about it or beat yourself up too much. Look at it this way, if they were all polite and accepting things would have been so dull. So this is just a little drama to spice up things that’s all. Now that’s just me talking because I don’t believe that other people can dictate my happiness. But if you have really landed with a monster-in-law then maybe you really do need help. Whether it’s an overprotective mom, boorish dad, creepy uncle or nasty siblings, they shouldn’t overshadow your relationship.